Seeking Arrangement is a “sugar daddy” website that’s been in the news because of some unsavory users. The website was allegedly used by Alix Catherine Tichelman to meet Forrest Hayes, a Google exec who overdosed on heroin. Tichelman has been charged with Hayes’s murder.
Read on to learn more about Seeking Arrangement, the kind of people who use the service, and the rise of the “sugar baby” lifestyle.
1. Seeking Arrangement is a ‘Sugar Daddy’ Dating Site
Seeking Arrangement is a site that connects “sugar daddies” and “sugar mommas” to “sugar babies.” In other words, this “dating” site helps wealthy individuals (who are often a bit older) to hook up with young, beautiful people. The relationships can involve trading money, gifts, or travel for sexual favors or companionship. As Seeking Arrangement puts it:
“Sugar Babies enjoy a life of luxury by being pampered with fine dinners, exotic trips and allowances. In turn, Sugar Daddies or Mommas find beautiful members to accompany them at all times.”
Seeking Arrangement bills itself as a site “where beautiful, successful people fuel mutual beneficial relationships.” The site adds that the average member takes just five days to set up their first meeting. The site consists of about 700,000 sugar daddies and sugar mommas, with 2.3 million “babies.”
The login page for Seeking Arrangement specifically aims to discourage escorts and prostitutes from using the site with the following disclaimer:
“Promoting illegal commercial activities (such as prostitution) is prohibited. If you are an ESCORT, DO NOT use this website.”
2. Alix Catherine Tichelman Used Seeking Arrangement to Meet Forrest Hayes
In their official statement about the Tichelman-Hayes case, Seeking Arrangement wrote:
This is a situation where two people entered into a consensual extramarital relationship, and happened to meet on our site. This is not a story about SeekingArrangement. This appears to be a case about recreational drug use gone wrong.”
There is a lot of speculation presented as facts in the Tichelman coverage. Our condolences to the Hayes family at this difficult time.
— SeekingArrangement (@seekarrangement) July 10, 2014
Seeking Arrangement, to its credit, does offer a background check service. Sex crimes, domestic violence, violent crimes, misdemeanors, and other criminal issues can cause an individual to fail Seeking Arrangement’s background check.
3. Some Seeking Arrangement Sugar Babies Are Trying to Pay For College
Check out the 20/20 report above on the college “sugar baby” trend.
Sugar Babies in the UK, Florida, Las Vegas, and many other places have reportedly turned to Seeking Arrangement in order to pay for their college tuition. One Arizona State student reportedly was “gifted” a couple thousand dollars in exchange for a non-sexual relationship she started through Seeking Arrangement.
4. Some Sugar Babies See Nothing Wrong With Making Arrangements
In the video above from the official Seeking Arrangement YouTube channel, people who can’t afford “Obamacare” are offered the chance to join Seeking Arrangement.
In an infamous article written for New York Magazine, a writer working under the pen name Ariel Black shared her experiences with being a sugar baby. Black argued that, despite what some detractors might say, there’s nothing inherently wrong with a “sugar” relationship:
“Eyebrows may raise, but I see no moral issue here. In fact, if there’s anything unbalanced about this equation, it’s in his favor. I give [my sugar daddy] what money is worthless without: friendship and fun. Plus great sex. That, by the way, is the easy part. It’s the emotional labor that’s challenging: I do all the grown-up relationship work, from planning our dates to downright mothering.”
5. Seeking Arrangement Has a Sister Site Where You Can Bid on a Date
Check out an interview with Seeking Arrangement CEO Brandon Wade in the video above.
VICE reports that Seeking Arrangement has branched out, creating a number of sister sites. These sites include the “no gold diggers allowed” millionaire dating site SeekingMillionaire, as well as the bribe-to-date service Carrot Dating.
Another sister service, What’s Your Price, allows men to bid for a first date with a beautiful woman. The site boasts that it has helped users set up over 200,000 successful first dates.