‘How to Build a Sex Room’ of Your Own

EIf you don’t have the funds to spring for Liberator’s chair or want something without those legs, try Avana’s Sleek Chaise Lounge. It says it’s for relaxing, stretching, and yoga. Sure…we’ll just say that’s what you want it for, yeah.

It sits flat on the floor and is made of dense foam with a removable (and machine-washable) microfiber cover. So it’s not going to have the same sort of firm support or structure as the more expensive options but it will work. The reviews are almost exclusively from people using it for “couple’s yoga wink wink” they report it performs just how you want it to.

I like that it comes in several different colors and the machine-washable cover is priceless. 

For those who love the idea but don’t have room, try an inflatable version so you can blow it up for your fun evening in and then store it out of sight afterward. This is also a good option for people who want to see if they like the design before investing in a higher-quality one.

It’s clear from the way it’s shot that Melanie Rose always enjoys pulling her flogger out of her bag of tricks and she’s also not afraid of bling. That’s why I’m including EdenFantasys’ Sparkle Bondage Kit which comes with a faux leather flogger with a sparkling rhinestone handle and a wrist loop for hanging. You also get a faux leather black blindfold and two faux leather cuffs with adjustable buckle closures. The cuffs have a fleece lining and each has a D-ring for binding them together using the included chain and lobster claw closure.

When my partner and I saw a very similar sign to this featured in the show we were immediately like, “We’re getting one for our bedroom.” This “Trust Me Love Me F— Me” neon sign is fun, flirty, and unashamed of what is about to happen in that bedroom. It makes a hell of a statement and I like that. 

This one comes in three different sizes and 13 different color combinations.

You could not have this list without one of these chaises. This Tantric Chair is made by Liberator so you know it’s coming from a trusted brand in the adult industry. Liberator is known for their wedges and support pillows so of course, they make a chair with this irresistible set of curves. 

I love that these chairs could be set out anywhere as a piece of stylish statement furniture without your guests putting together exactly what it’s used for–that is unless they’ve watched the show. 

It’s covered in faux suede leather (in black or charcoal) and has six real maplewood legs to support it. The faux leather has a moisture-proof lining which is good because there is going to be moisture.

I featured Liberator’s Esse Lounge Chair on my best sex chairs and sex furniture post because it combines the curves of a tantric chair as well as two included curved wedge pillows to help you customize your support. 

This Art Deco Wall Paper is almost identical to the wallpaper used in the bathroom Melanie Rose designed for the polyamorous family. One thing that was made really clear in the entire series is just how much wallpaper can transform a room and this dark wallpaper with metallic gold accents absolutely establishes an entirely different mood than boring apartment-off-white walls. 

This wallpaper is peel and stick vinyl so it’s removable without harming the underlying wall. That’s a great argument for why you should just go for it because if you hate it, you can always take it down. It comes in two-foot wide strips and 11 different heights. You can also get a sample swatch for cheap to take a closer look before diving in.

One of the items that stood out to me was the Illusion Hand Hooks. These hands hang on the wall and act as a holder for whatever you’ve got in mind. It’s best to hold lighter items like lingerie, small toys, harnesses, or condoms. 

I’m featuring this ceramic hand in the classic come here position (iykyk) but they also come in a palm up design or two hands cupped together.

Melanie Rose did not shy away from sexy artwork and I think she would approve of this Metal Sensual Body Art Piece. The flat piece is made of thin steel so it’s light enough to hang without worrying and the negative space of it really plays with the color of your wall. (That said, this might not look great on patterned wallpaper.) It depicts a stylized nude woman in the act of removing her panties and, at least to me, that’s a hot moment. 

I like that’s sexy without being X-rated. 

This is the medium size version. You can also get it smaller than this or much larger. 

Melanie Rose includes flameless candles like this nine-piece set in many of her rooms and they’re one of those items that everyone ought to have. Candles tend to wind up in nearly any list when you ask a partner what’s involved in a romantic evening.

But according to the National Fire Protection Association, candle fires are responsible for 291 million dollars in property damage annually in the U.S. alone as well as 670 injuries. Getting a little too animated in the bedroom and knocking over a lit candle is a surefire (get it?) way to kill the mood. Falling asleep to relaxing candlelight after a job well done may be soothing but it’s dangerous. 

Fake candles look just as nice but lack the whole fire element thing that could burn your house down given the chance. Plus these are remote-controlled. Can your Yankee Candle do that?

There is some sort of Sheepskin Throw in nearly every room from the show. The tactile sensations of super-soft sheepskin are immaculate. It’s such a pleasurable texture that I just can’t stop touching. They feel and look luxurious and lend themselves to some nice sensation play by gliding the throw up and down your partner’s bare skin.

It can double as a rug and if you’ve got a fireplace you can throw this down in front of it and then (consensually) throw your partner down in front of to recreate every cliche but hot fireplace scene from movies.

This one is a two-foot by three-foot genuine New Zealand sheepskin that hasn’t been bleached or dyed. If you’re looking to lay on it, they also have a two-foot by six-foot version.

If you’re trying to avoid animal products, I fully respect that. Luckily there are great faux sheepskin options that have the extra benefit of being way more affordable.

I spotted a few of these Bottom Vases in the show and recognized them immediately as I feature this vase in my best weird gifts article. I think they’re adorable. Just a cute little butt sitting on the shelf. I love it. 

The cute little ceramic bum has a drainage hole and that’s one of my favorite sentences I’ve ever been able to publish. 

It’s petite at 4.3 inches tall and three inches at its widest. The opposite side of the vase has a little belly button and goes for Barbie doll-style front if you catch my drift. You can find vases like these in a wide range of colors.

Base Roots also has a female form set that includes this bottom and a taller vase that encompasses more of the waist and significantly more legs. The front of that one has a sunflower covering the money shot. 

Melanie Rose never seemed to be without her trusty plug. This Stainless Steel Plug from Njoy is industry standard for steel toys and identical to the one she pulls out of her bag of tricks. The weight of a steel plug is very different from anything you’ve ever experienced. The steel also allows for smoother insertion and quick sterilization. It comes in a few sizes. This is the small one for beginners.

The first couple ends up with a steel plug with a pink crystal heart in their room that’s almost identical to this one from EdenFantasys as well. 

Melt by We-Vibe was featured in one of the last episodes to convince a woman who thought sex toys couldn’t do anything better than she could that she was dead wrong. This air pulse toy creates suction for a sensation like nothing you’ve ever felt with a traditional toy.

I own this and sing its praises to anyone who will listen. I featured it as the top product in Heavy’s Best Sex Toys article. 

The Melt is made of body-safe silicone and it is magnetic charging, meaning there are no openings in the toy allowing you to safely take it into the shower or bathtub. It can be controlled by the buttons on the toy or it can be controlled via Bluetooth on your smartphone. Or your partner’s smartphone. Even if they are across the country. That’s why it’s also on my Sex Toys for Long Distance post as well. 

If you have a clit, you owe it to yourself to get this.

You might have seen a set of mattress bondage cuffs like these in Ryan and Raj’s finished room. They’re a good choice for bondage beginners because the cuffs are soft and have velcro closures that allow you to get the cuffs on and off quickly in case someone is uncomfortable. 

The great thing about under the bed restraints is that the structure of it is hidden underneath your mattress with only the cuffs showing at the corners. When not in use the cuffs can tuck away under the mattress for next time. 

Mirrors on the ceiling are a cliche for a reason. People love to look at themselves and their partners in the act and why not? It’s your house. Murrey Home sells mirror squares made for walls, ceilings, and centerpieces so you can create your very own mirrored ceiling or wall. This is a set of 12 mirrors that each measure 12 inches by 12 inches. 

As far as installing, it depends on how you’re using it. For a wall, you can relay on quality double-sided tape. For a ceiling, SFGATE recommends using mirror adhesive.

Decor that honors bondage and restraint play doesn’t have to only be kinky harnesses and black latex. It can be subtle like this clay knot sculpture. It brings in the idea of ropes and knots without being outright handcuffs.

The knot is 8.5 inches long, so it’s substantial and will really stand out wherever you put it. You can pair it with a length of white wooden chain links to complete the look.

Pretty sure I spotted this exact Lips Vase in a later episode and I kind of love it. It’s sexy, cheeky, and suggestive without getting into full nudity. It’s ceramic so it has a good weight to it and feels classy. I always love when pieces that are nearing the vulgar end of the spectrum are made out of high-end materials. People put time, energy, and high-quality materials into this. It elevates it compared to a plastic lips vase.

It comes in a range of colors including pink, white, purple, and orange.

Melanie Rose is all about textures and I think she would love this dramatic Velvet Wallpaper. The abstract swirl design is flocked against a statin lighter black background. Running your hands across it will light up your senses in a way flat plaster never will. 

This is proper wallpaper, not peel and stick, so make sure you’ve done your research before buying. 

It may not be specifically built for bondage, but this Metal Frame Canopy Bed by ZINUS is covered in places you can use as tie-down points. You’ve got four pillars on the corners, this three-bar headboard, perfect for cuffs, and a frame around the top. 

Keep in mind that this isn’t built to handle suspension but some light to medium bondage? Absolutely. And it’s not a fetish bed by design so there’s no reason anyone would know as long as you took the cuffs off at the end of the night. 

If you have the funds and like the idea of your secret pleasure room really being a secret, consider installing a Murphy Door. Two couples in the show make use of these to help discourage guests (or small children) from accidentally wandering into their private play space, or from even knowing that it exists at all. (Although, having your sex room featured in a Netflix original seems like it would blow your cover pretty quick.)

A murphy door looks like an innocent bookcase but it’s really a hidden doorway. This one comes in five different widths from a narrow 24 inches wide up to 36 inches wide. I’ve featured the unfinished color so you can get an idea of the base that you can paint it to match your home but it also comes in four finished colors for a slightly higher price tag: White, Hale Navy, Dorian Gray, and Black.

It comes with the door as well as jam and trim, hardware, and installation instructions.

Have the space for dedicated furniture? Check out this multi-use spanking bench. The made-in-America bench is fabricated with durable hardwood and metal. There are six tie-down points that can hold your partner in a variety of positions. 

My first impact play tool was a riding crop like this one from Jack Hardy. This isn’t a kink brand. It’s for equestrians and the crop was designed to be used on actual horses. Why skip fetish-designed crops? Equestrian crops are cheaper and built to last. My crop was bought from an equestrian store and has been with me for decades. 

If you’re looking for a real leather crop, go with Malerino.

Riding crops are good intros into impact play because they are less intimidating than floggers and you have much more control over the strength of your swat and where it will land. That said, you can really raise some welts with a crop if you put your back into so be gentle and work your way up. 

Plus it makes such a satisfying wooshing sound when you swing it. 

Another item you see in the background of many rooms is clusters of Ostrich Feathers like this set from Ballinger. Ostrich feathers represent opulence in their tall, delicate flounciness. They also feel breathtaking when traced over bare skin. 

These are multi-taskers. Great as decor. Great as sensation play.

In this set you get 24 feathers that are around 10 to 12 inches tall. Stick them in a vase and you suddenly have a decor piece that looks like something right out of the show. I’m featuring this soft champagne color but they come in over 15 colors including white, red, and black.

Intrigued by the Shibari rope tying in the show? Try it yourself with this Four-Pack Skin-Friendly Cotton Rope. It might be sold in the hardware section but they know very well it’s going to be used in the hard where section. (Okay, that was a stretch. I apologize.) 

You get 32 feet of each color and there is an aglet on the end of the ropes to keep them from fraying, just like on a shoelace.

It’s nice and soft so it’s comfortable to be rubbing on skin. They also wash well on the off chance they were to get dirty.

If multicolor isn’t your thing, they also come in sets of two bundles in black, red, pink, or purple.

Interested in learning more? Essence Shibari is a great book to really dig into this gorgeous tradition. 

Another lighting trend that Melanie Rose seems to love is metal wall sconces. There’s a certain Old World charm to them that evokes images of royalty and of dungeons. Perfect for a sex room design. 

I like these because they are affordable, come with the shown faux candles (no batteries though), and use a plastic candle screen instead of glass to help keep them lightweight. Plus, they won’t shatter like that one the builder dropped in one of the first episodes.

In at least two rooms in the season, Melanie Rose uses a hanging faux succulent arrangement like this one. They’re a nice, low-maintenance way to bring a little bit of the outdoors in without worrying about watering schedules and how to keep a planter vertically on the wall. 

I love succulents and all the fun succulent planters to choose from. They lend this air of sophistication and calm. But they can be so finicky with their care so I am not above a well-made fake succulent. 

This piece is 15.8 inches tall and 11.8 inches wide in a real wooden frame that is ready to hang.

I, for one, loved all the little nude statues hidden on end tables and by beds in most of the rooms in the show. Check out this Shibari Bronze Statue called Dakota by artist J. Patoue. The nine-inch tall statue is cast in real bronze and features a nude woman with decorative bondage rope and a ball gag. She sits on a real marble base to elevate the art even further.

The details are exquisitely captured from the coiled strands of rope down to individual toes (if that’s your thing.) It’s impressive for a figure that is only nine inches tall. 

The artist also has a statue of a woman on a Saint Andrew’s Cross and bound in such a way to put her in a very, very compromising position. 

These statues are made from a lost wax cast. This is an ancient method used to create statues since 3,000 B.C.E. according to The Crucible’s page on the art. A figure is carved in wax and then a mold is sealed around the wax figure. Then, molten metal is poured into the mold, melting and displacing the wax. Hence the term lost wax.

Don’t have enough room for larger bondage furniture? Go for spreader bars like this adjustable five-piece set from Sovyime. 

A spreader bar is a length of metal (often adjustable) with connections on each end where you can attach wrist or ankle cuffs. They’re an efficient way to keep someone’s legs from closing. 

One huge benefit to spreader bars is that they break down for storage so they’re easy to hide.

This set comes with a bar and four cuffs.

Give your partner a private show by bringing the strip club home with the SereneLife Pole. Hopefully, it will make your life anything but serene. 

It’s good for beginners and is quick to install. All you need to do is find a stud in your ceiling and then extend the pole until it’s snug–just like putting up tension shower curtain. This one was featured in Heavy’s Best Pole Dancing Poles.

Why do I feel like Melanie Rose would like this Coffee Table by WOHNKULTUR Fine Arts titled Erotic Dreams if she ever saw it? Made from bronze, marble, and glass, this true piece of art features a male figure on his back, nude and in his full glory if you catch my drift. His body is holding the oval glass coffee table surface. 

This is a good choice for a Dom/me who likes to dominate masc submissives or anyone who appreciates the male form. 

It’s a substantial piece, reflected in the price, at over five feet long and weighing in at just under 200 pounds. The bronze statue is plated with silver for his scant clothing and gold for his body. 

If you prefer femmes, they have a comparable coffee table titled Invitation, definitely a name that gets the imagination going. (Her nips go through the glass tabletop. It’s worth taking a look at.) Or an end table made up of a woman in bondage. There are lots of fun things to choose from here if you have the budget for fine art.

This metal wall hanging captures the siren song of Saturday mornings: “Let’s Stay In Bed.” Made of lightweight iron wire, this six-piece set is perfect to hang in your bedroom as an inviting reminder that this is your place with your person and you want to spend time with them here. 

The longest word “Let’s” is 8.27 inches across so it’s a good medium-sized piece that can work with larger or smaller spaces depending on how you arrange it. It even comes with double-sided tape for hanging.

Wartenberg Wheels like this multichrome one made their way into a lot of toy chests Melanie Rose curated. Originally and still used by neurologists to test nerve sensation, these spikey wheels are great for sensation play. 

They look intimidating but they aren’t supposed to hurt. You’re meant to gently roll these across the skin to create unique sensations. The stainless steel pins are sharp so there’s the threat of pain–which can be part of the fun. 

Wartenberg pinwheels come in many different designs. I’m highlighting a four-wheeled one because the higher surface area is good for beginners. They also make them as a single wheel for a more intense, localized experience. 

Get right down to it with this “Let’s Get Naked” Neon Sign. It’s fun, playful, and a perfect addition to a rock-n-roll style dungeon. I love that this one looks like a neon light but it’s actually flexible LEDs so it’s more forgiving in its handling and will last longer than traditional neon. It’s handcrafted and available in lengths of 20 inches up to 30 inches. 

Melanie Rose uses lots of, what I would assume are, faux plants like this gorgeous five-foot Bird of Paradise Palm, to class up a room that would otherwise be a little dungeon-y. She even used them inside a huge shower which seemed a little odd to me but it looked like a five-star hotel.

Plants brighten up a space because when you see plants, you automatically expect there to be sunlight. These silk plants don’t need light or water, just a planter of your choice. 

The potted palm is 5 feet tall and bendable to arrange to your liking. It comes in a 10-inch plain black pot so a 12-inch pot would be a safe way to go. 

If palms aren’t your things, there are plenty of plants to choose from including Fiddle Leaf Figs and the ever-popular Monstera Deliciosa Adansonii.

Be real clear about your intentions with this “F— Me” Pillow. This 18 by 18-inch pillow has the text on both sides so even if it gets knocked over while you’re getting busy, they’ll still know exactly how you feel. 

A bed (or any horizontal space) with way too many pillows was certainly a theme in the show and the one is a fun, playful addition. Plus it’s machine washable which will be necessary. 

Keep in mind that this is just the cover and will fit an 18 by 18-inch pillow. If you don’t have one you can buy an insert.

This Deco 79 Melting Accent Table is similar to the one used in the Honeymoon Suite-themed room. The dripping look to it is unique and certainly stands out. There’s a feeling of opulence in this dripping gold and a sense of boldness and confidence. 

The table is crafted from sturdy but light aluminum and has a tempered glass tabletop. It comes in metallic gold, metallic silver, or black. It has a diameter of 16 inches making it perfect to sneak into smaller areas as a surface to hold your champagne or maybe your sex toys. Your call.

There were a lot of items on the show that my partner and I both wanted for our home but the artificial wisteria flowers hanging over the clawfoot bathtub? Divine. 

This is a 12-pack of hanging faux wisteria blossoms with leaves at the top and a dramatic thinning toward the bottom. They measure 3.6 feet long and make for a dreamy, fantasy bower. 

They come in six different colors including white, pink, and blue.

This Nude Art Triptych has just enough lines to be abstract while still being recognizable if you really look at it. The white lines on black set the mood and the lines accentual curves for a soft feeling. I mean look at that center one. A bj has never looked so classy. 

I can easily see these hung above a small posh bar cart in your sexy room. A bonus for me is that the prints come framed and ready to hang. Frames are expensive.

They come in four different sizes from 16 inches tall up to 72 inches tall. If that seems like a lot, remember how many huge pieces of artwork that take up large portions of the wall that they had on the show. You want it to draw the eye and make a statement. Plus the bigger they are the more abstract and elegant they seem.

I was a little obsessed with all the posh bar carts set up in the bedroom and playrooms from the show. This Lux Bar Cart from Sauder International could be swapped out for any of the carts on the show without anyone noticing. 

The gold-finish metal frame has an Art Deco feel to it with all the geometric shapes and clean angles. The glass shelves are etched with Art Deco sunbursts that give the tempered glass a little something extra. It looks like the sort of place you’d mix a killer sidecar or dry martini. 

Want something a little funkier or smaller? Check out this narrow, three-tier Coral Cape Bar Cart with gold and teal accents and banana leaf etched glass.

It’s no secret that Melanie Rose loves some dick decor. This wall art by Eduardo Rocca celebrates gay pride in a fun and fruity way. If you want a rainbow of peen on your wall, it’s going to be hard to find something else that is more fitting than this.