Pamela Gaudry: 5 Fast Facts You Need to Know

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Facebook/Pamela Gaudry Pamela Gaudry in a scene from the Facebook video she posted.

Pamela Gaudry is a physician from Georgia who took a stand when, she says, a flight attendant stopped Gaudry and fellow passengers from singing the National Anthem as the body of a fallen American soldier was removed from the plane in Atlanta, Georgia.

Gaudry said in the Facebook Live video that she posted after the flight that the lead flight attendant told her singing the National Anthem was against policy and that “several of the people on the plane were from other countries and that they were uncomfortable with us singing the National Anthem.” She has since said that Delta contacted her to say the flight attendant didn’t handle the situation right, but there is no specific Delta policy against the National Anthem.

According to, Anthony Black, a spokesman for Delta, “declined to comment Monday on the specifics on Gaudry’s account,” but stressed, “There is not a policy about singing the national anthem, period.”

Here’s what you need to know:

1. Gaudry’s Video on the National Anthem Has Been Viewed More than 2 Million Times

After the incident, Gaudry filmed the Facebook Live video while still at Atlanta’s airport. Gaudry said in a follow-up message that, “Delta has contacted me – no money or free tickets (I promise, and I would not have taken them)- and this is NOT their policy. Evidently they had a flight attendant that made some bad decisions in trying to make this situation go away. They are going to do some training for the future.”

The video has since gone viral. You can watch Gaudry’s video above. This is most of what she says in the video:

“My name is Pam Gaudry, I am a physician, and I am the wife of a deceased Navy captain, not who died in the line of duty, and he gave 20 years of his life to the Navy. I just did the most uncourageous thing in my life today, and I’m sharing it, and I hope that somehow it gets to people all around and even the president. So I was on a flight from Philadelphia to Atlanta today, and we had a deceased soldier who was also accompanied by his best friend, a man in uniform, and the captain came on and asked if we would all remain seated while the soldier got off the plane first and while the Honor Guard took the deceased soldier out of the plane, which was great. I had an idea, it was just one of these spontaneous ideas, that it would be so neat when this soldier stood up and, while the honor guard was taking him off, that we should sing the National Anthem, and so I went around to each seat and I asked if people felt comfortable doing it if they would join me, and most people were thrilled out of their minds, and several women cried, and said you know that’s so great, and I had some people come up to me and say we should make a habit of this and said this would be great, and it’s a great honor to the boys parents and wife and perhaps children.

Anyway, I went to every seat. And Some people said fine, and others didn’t want to do it, which is fine; I said whatever you feel comfortable doing. After I sat back down, it was apparent that the plane was starting to descend, and the chief flight attendant came up to my seat and she kneeled down and she said, ‘It’s against company policy to do what you are doing.’ And I said the National Anthem, and there’s a soldier on board. And she said yes, you can not sing the National Anthem, it is against company policy. And I said, Well, I just told every single person on this plane that we are going to do it, are you going to tell them not to because I’m not going around to tell them not to sing. They did make an announcement that we were to stay quietly in our seats and be very quiet. She did not tell the rest of the plane that singing the National Anthem for this soldier was against company policy.

She told me that several of the people on the plane were from other countries and that they were uncomfortable with us singing the National Anthem. So the soldier got up. They whisked him out very quickly, which I assumed would happen when word got out to the flight crew that we were going to do this. We all sat in silence as the Honor Guard took the soldier off the plane. I was a little scared that I would be taken away by, I didn’t know what would happen to me if I started speaking.”

2. Gaudry Says She Has Spoken With the Family of Fallen Soldier Dustin Wright

The airline would not confirm the name of the fallen soldier whose body was coming home, but Gaudry says on Facebook that she has spoken with the family of heroic Army staff Sgt. Dustin Wright.

Although Black, the company spokesman, told the Boston newspaper that he couldn’t identify the deceased soldier on the flight, reported that the body of Army Staff Sgt. Dustin Wright, “a special forces soldier who was among four U.S. troops killed in an ambush attack Oct. 4 in Niger, was returned Saturday to Wright’s family in rural southeast Georgia.”

According to WRAL-TV, Wright and other “soldiers were killed earlier this month when 50 ISIS-affiliated fighters attacked them in a remote area of the African nation.” The site added, “Dustin Wright, Staff Sgt. Bryan Black, Staff Sgt. Jeremiah Johnson and Sgt. David Johnson were the first American troops to die in Niger as the U.S. counter terrorism mission there continues to expand.”

The television station reported that Wright’s family has a “205 year military legacy.”

3. Gaudry Works as a Gynecologist in Savannah, Georgia Specializing in Menopausal Health & Is an Author

Gaudry’s Facebook page says she works as a gynecologist at Memorial University Medical Center in Savannah.

Her Facebook page also says that she went to Savannah Christian Preparatory School, lives in Savannah, Georgia, and is from Savannah.

According to Memorial Health, Pamela Gallup Gaudry, M.D., FACOG, “is the founder of the Memorial Center for Menopausal Medicine. She graduated summa cum laude from the University of Georgia in 1985. Gaudry then earned her medical degree from the Medical College of Georgia in 1989 and completed her residency training at the Medical College of Georgia in Augusta. She moved to Savannah in 1993 and has been practicing and teaching at Memorial University Medical Center ever since.”

The bio adds, “Gaudry is a North American Menopause Society Certified Menopause Practitioner. She completed training in medical sex therapy and has a strong interest in helping couples maintain intimacy in their marriage after cancer or other life-changing events or medical issues.”

She belongs to many prominent medical organizations. “Gaudry is a member of the Georgia OB/GYN Society, the Georgia Medical Society, The Medical Association of Georgia, and the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. She was in the inaugural class of the Georgia Physician’s Leadership Academy in 2007,” the bio says.

“Gaudry is passionate about issues related to women’s medical well-being, particularly issues concerning menopausal health. She authored a book on the topic called Love, Sweat, and Tears. She hopes to help women around the world transition through menopause safely, sanely, and well-educated,” reports the page.

One website calls her “America’s Romance Menopause Doctor.”

4. Gaudry’s Husbands Were Both Veterans & One Served in Vietnam

One reason that Gaudry was so emotional about the whole situation: Her own first husband, who is now deceased, served in Vietnam, although he did not die in the line of duty.

She brought him up repeatedly in the video, saying, “I am humiliated by my lack of courage to sing the National Anthem in my own country on American soil with a deceased soldier on the plane. I wish I could have been an example for my children. I’m glad my former husband is deceased because he would have been profoundly disappointed in me, and I can tell you that having been in Vietnam and having saved a lot of people’s lives there, he would have been horribly disappointed in me, so I just wanted people to know that this happened. Obviously, I’m still in the airport. …I wish I had more courage to start singing.”

She has married again, and she wrote on Facebook, “My new husband is a veteran, and so were both his brothers. One of them is a retired general. They all served during the Vietnam war. My deceased husband was a flight surgeon in Vietnam, a 20 year veteran of the Navy. I have been handed a flag after an honor guard honored him at his funeral.”

5. Gaudry Posted an Open Letter to ‘America’ After the Incident

After she received massive support online in response to the video, Gaudry posted another message on her Facebook page. It reads:

“Dear America,

I would like to publicly respond and thank everyone for the support. I wish that I had just STOOD UP after the soldier got off the plane and just started singing – I believe in my heart that many would have joined me.

Delta has contacted me – no money or free tickets (I promise, and I would not have taken them)- and this is NOT their policy. Evidently they had a flight attendant that made some bad decisions in trying to make this situation go away. They are going to do some training for the future.

Delta was very reverent and let the honor guards do a wonderful thing to honor each and every soldier that comes home with this beautiful tribute. For just this reason, I personally do not believe in a boycott of Delta.

The family knows what happened, has contacted me, and are appreciative of the effort. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I have told them how beautiful and reverent it was as he was being taken off of the plane.

Several of the honor guards that were there have contacted me and were appreciative of the effort. Thank you. Thank you for your service. God bless you.

Many, many people from the city of Lyons, GA have contacted me and are appreciative of the effort. Thank you. God bless all of you. What you did in Lyons was amazing for Dustin Wright. I hope that everyone finds those videos of them arriving in that city.

Several people have commented that we should never sit down to sing the National Anthem. I agree 100%. I was trying to honor this soldier AND follow Delta’s rules to stay in our seats. It was all and only done to honor this soldier. Lots of things are easy to see in hindsight.

For those few that felt that I was doing it for the glory: Please. Please stop. My new husband is a veteran, and so were both his brothers. One of them is a retired general. They all served during the Vietnam war. My deceased husband was a flight surgeon in Vietnam, a 20 year veteran of the Navy. I have been handed a flag after an honor guard honored him at his funeral. I was told that we could not sing because people from other countries were “uncomfortable” and “offended” with this. This statement horrified me. I was told that we couldn’t sing because it was against the company policy – I was told this TWICE. I sincerely wish there was a recording. You would have been horrified too. I was horrified. I made the video after leaving the plane.

For the many soldiers who have shared their stories with me: Thank you. I have cried reading your heartfelt stories.

The one thing that has been profoundly evident to me with all of your comments is that I am not worried about the patriotism of this wonderful country as much as I was prior to hearing from you. I thought that we had no hope. We do. We have lots of hope. I encourage the silent majority to be silent no more.

Do I think that we can break out in the singing of our national anthem when we feel it is appropriate? Yes. Should it be ok on a plane with a soldier being taken off? Yes, WHEN the time is appropriate and if you stand AND observe the appropriate silence that is due. If the family is on board and does not want you to sing? No, I would respect their wishes. Did Delta honor this soldier? Yes, beautifully and reverently.

Were there really people on the plane that were from other countries and were uncomfortable and offended? I will never know for sure, but this is what was told to me. If I was in your country and the same thing happened, I would smile and be impressed by the patriotism. If the flight attendant just told me this to stop me singing {and be silent and reverent (which was admittedly appropriate)}, then shame on you! How could you even come up with this excuse. In a thousand years, I cannot fathom that an American could have come up with that excuse. Although, I pray that you just DID make this up because you were nervous. I have done stupid things when I was nervous or upset. If you actually conceded to these wishes of people from other countries…I cannot find the appropriate words to reprimand you.

Delta has apologized to me. Profusely. I accept. Like many things in life…it should have been handled differently. I am not throwing any stones.

What good has happened?

1. Hundreds of thousands of people who never knew about William Wright (Dustin Wright), his death, his family, and his service to our country, now know.

2. Hundreds of thousands of people are now praying for this soldier and his family. I know that they appreciate the prayers. Please keep them coming for this family – they will need it, especially when the attention dies down. Thats when it is the most lonely – after.

3. Hundreds of thousands of people now know that four soldiers died in this tragic event in Africa:

Staff SGT. Dustin Wright
Staff SGT. Jeremiah Johnson
Staff SGT. Bryan Black
SGT. LA David Johnson

Lets pray for all 4 of them and their families.

4. All of you have made it clear that there is profound patriotism SLEEPING in this country. Lets WAKE UP! Show it.

5. There is profound belief in God – The God of which the foundation of our country was based- SLEEPING in this country. This woke a lot of people up.


Show it! I have received so many messages about prayer and God with respect to this country, it makes me hopeful that we all truly pray for God to continue to bless this country. We need it.

Thank you all for your messages that are 99% positive. I cannot possibly answer – let alone read -them all. I am going to try. I wish that every soldier and especially every gold star family could see the messages…they would have more pride in this country than they already do – which would be impossible. I sure do.

For those who were upset with me or thought that I was after glory…I am sorry that I upset you and that you think like this. It is wrong – but we can debate that forever and get no where. It is just sad. For the people who said very nasty things…I forgive you. I understand the passion and emotion. I get it.

I wish that I had asked for forgiveness in singing instead of permission to sing – but then these good things would not have happened. It is done. Just like NOT singing yesterday… I cannot undo it.

For the William Wright Family – I hope that you are ok. I am sorry if I caused you any discomfort or unwanted attention. Truly. Obviously America, the great State of Georgia, and The Bulldog Nation have lost a hero. I pray for you. We all do.

Please pray for ALL of these families tonight and for a long time – they will need it.


Pamela Dee Gaudry.”

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